I guess, if we are really honest with ourselves, deep down we all want to be a bit of a badass. On my vision board I have an image of a guy on a harley, leather jacket, big boots - crousing Route 66.
Cruising the road; rules don't apply to you, freedom is your blood - you are a badass!. As Arnie says, you must break the rules, just don't break the law. Arnie, is a true badass. It was in this rebellious moment at the airport on my way to Iceland that this book caught my attention.
You Are a Badass is technically a self-help book, offering advice on how to see your life through fresh eyes, find your passion, and live the life you want.
Sincero states that in order to live a successful life, you need to start living for yourself and doing what you love doing!
Not what your parents, your friends or colleagues expect from you, but what you expect of yourself. While it might sound impossible now, by the end of reading this book, Sincero guarantees that you will be well on your way to being a badass. With that goal I started reading the book.
The three most powerful points I took from the book were;
You don’t have to hit rock bottom to make a change. You can just decide. As Napoleon Hill stated in Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude. ‘Do It Now’
Respect yourself instead of catering to your need to be liked. Never apologize for being you. Be original, be authentic.
Procrastination is the easiest form of self-sabotage – you’ll either find a way or an excuse.
Your negative mental attitude (NMA) is holding you back.
If you feel that you’re an undiscovered genius lost in the daily grind of a dead-end job, you need to ask yourself – what’s holding you back? Most likely it’s you, or more specifically, your negative beliefs.
What we believe is largely based on the messages with which we’ve been bombarded since we were very young. Your parents, for instance, might have told you while growing up that money doesn’t grow on trees, or you need money to make money etc. The more you heard this message, the more likely your brain and subconscious grew to believe it was true.
The result? You’ll shy away from pursuits that could lead to financial success, from learning about investment strategies to pursuing an MBA – all because you’ve convinced yourself that trying to make money is pointless. Such negative beliefs, the author states, are known as the Big Snooze. It’s this part of your personality that keeps you from chasing your dreams.
Fortunately, you’re more than capable of freeing yourself from the crippling power of the Big Snooze. How? By adopting positive beliefs, or a positive mental attitude (PMA) that allow you to have faith in yourself. Start by reflecting on who you are as if you were another person entirely. Admire your strengths, and think honestly about all the good things you could say about yourself. Believe that you have already made it. Fake it till you make it.
When you believe that you’re talented, that your ideas are worthwhile and that you have something to offer the world, the negative attitudes that you’ve carried with you for so long will cease to hold you back. Next time you walk into a room of people, focus on your posture, stand tall, walk in like you own the place, talk loud and clear, and greet people with a firm handshake. People make up their minds about the status of a person within 10 seconds of meeting you. Make those 10 seconds count.
Be original and stop caring what other people think of you and your goals.
When we’re young, we have an intuitive understanding of who we are and how we do things and who we want to become. At what stage does the “I want to become an astronaut or President”, change to account or buyer? As we grow older, we stop listening to our inner voice and dream to do what others tell us to do. If you want to make your ambitions reality, you need to embrace your inner badass. Once you stop caring about what other people think, you can find your own path!
Perhaps you dream of becoming an author. To do this, you’ll have to write a lot! This, in turn, likely requires you to carve out free time while you hold down a job that helps you pay the rent. Colleagues may laugh about your “hobby.” Friends may drift away as you spend less time with them and more time on your novel. These changes can be bitter, but you have to push on if you want to get published.
Find strength in doing your own thing, and you’ll find the strength to ignore the disapproval of others. Granted, it’s not always easy to discover your “thing.” Many of us get influenced by the demands or pressures of friends and family. But, the author states, if you decide to become a doctor or a store manager just because it’s family tradition, you’ll wind up hating your job and your choices.
So listen to your intuition and take a step back to observe how you live, what you do and what really interests you. Reflecting in this way will help you discern what you truly want from life. If you’re yearning to become a plumber, then accept this fact and go for it!
To have a richer life, you need to be a lifelong learner; cultivate gratitude and learn to forgive.
Your time on this earth is limited – so make the best of it! Every day offers a chance to enjoy and celebrate life’s journey, though it’s all too easy to forget this in the rush and bustle of modern life.
There are three things you can do to value each day a little more.
Change your attitude to challenging tasks. Rather than approaching a problem like an expert, consider yourself an avid learner. People with a passion to learn don’t feel pressure to prove their abilities, which means they don’t grapple with the fear of failure, either. Mistakes are no longer frightening but a welcome part of the learning journey.
Make an effort to express and experience gratitude daily. Gratitude isn’t about showing appreciation for the sake of being polite – it’s a positive state of being. By being grateful, you keep all the good things in life in the foreground of your thoughts. And by practising and sharing gratitude, you can help others stay positive, too.
You can improve each day by learning to forgive others and yourself, too. If someone hurt you or betrayed you, the incident will trouble you until you forgive them. Why? Because forgiveness allows you to move forward in life. The same goes for something you might have done that you now regret. If you’ve done your best to make amends, it’s time to forgive yourself. By accepting yourself and your mistakes, you’ll be able to free yourself from negative thoughts and sleepless nights.
Your thoughts are powerful, so think positive thoughts.
In our modern world, we’re hyper-focused on action; on quick results or quick gratification. Thinking things over and taking time to develop ideas, on the other hand, are habits that we don’t often practice. But we should. The author explains that thoughts are powerful, as they lead us to where we want to go in life. You need only start with knowing what you want and simply be open to how you can get there. Perhaps you want to become a writer, but the road to becoming a published author is unclear. To uncover the how of this process, you might look to literary role models and examine how they achieved their dreams to find inspiration for your own path. As you feel your way and progress, you’ll begin to feel comfortable calling yourself a writer. Thinking of yourself as the person you want to be is another powerful way to make your thoughts work for you.
By acting as if the thing you want is already a reality, negative thoughts won’t be able to hold you back. In other words, fake it ‘til you make it! If you dream of becoming a great speaker but are afraid of addressing a crowd, don’t focus on your trembling hands or timid voice. Instead, visualize yourself delivering fantastic speeches, and you’ll soon be presenting more confidently. The more speeches you give, the more your confidence will grow, and the more your public speaking will improve – this is called a virtuous circle.
To further boost your thinking power, spend time imagining your goals with as much specificity as you can.
A thought is a powerful tool when it comes to achieving your goals, but it must be combined with real action. To act positively, you need to first overcome the drag of procrastination and hesitation. When we procrastinate, we let the fear of failure stop us from following through on decisions. If you think that you’re not qualified to perform a certain task, you’ll look for any reason not to try it. Thoughts like “My writing isn’t good enough” or “It’ll never pay the way” will only hold you back.
To overcome these excuses, you need to convince yourself of your purpose. If your resolve is weak, this may be a sign that you need to redefine your goals. Taking action also requires you to overcome hesitation. This isn’t easy! Often, we hesitate when we’re scared to become someone we might not like.
Always focus on your goals.
You have read the book, watched the YouTube clips, listened to the audiobook and now you are hyped to change your life by working towards your dream goal. But how far will you go? Too often talented people don’t live their dreams because they give up too soon. Remember that failure is a fact of life, and we all experience rejection. Basketball legend Michael Jordan didn’t make the cut for his high school basketball team; renowned movie director Steven Spielberg was rejected from film school three times! While rejection is a part of anyone’s journey, quitting is something you should never do. Instead, learn from your mistakes and keep pushing until you create the life you’ve always wanted. To overcome the temptation to give up, you need to take responsibility for all aspects of your life. If your habits, surroundings or circle of friends make it harder for you to achieve your goals, it’s time to make some thoughtful changes.
In fact, creating a new environment and lifestyle centered around your life purpose is one of the best ways to stay on track. If you’re an aspiring writer, surround yourself with people who have similar passions. Start and end your day in ways that will help you reconnect with your goals. Explore new groups, places and communities that can provide you with more support as you push forward.
Ultimately, your new life will emerge through clear intentions, powerful desires and action. Don’t care about what others think, and crucially, give yourself permission to live your dreams!
What I took from it.
To be the badass you’ve always wanted to be, learn to pinpoint the things in your life that are holding you back and make changes to how you live and think to address these blocks. Importantly, don’t let anyone distract you from doing what you love! Soon enough, you’ll find yourself living a life of which you’ve always dreamed.
I think I got ‘tricked’ by the title of this book. As I said in the intro, deep down, I guess, we all want to be a badass at some sort of level. Also, apparently yellow or orange covers convert to higher sales than other coloured covered, so some sales psychology worked on me here. Did I enjoy the book? Yes. Was it original, No. Having read many of these type of books, there was not a single original point that I could highlight. However, they say repetition is the master of all skill though, so always good to read the same helpful tips again. It’s funny and can be empowering if this is your first self-help book.